‘Man-on-Man’ vs. ‘Zone’ Defense Dating Strategies

In team sports there are usually two major types of defense.  One is called “Man” or “Man-on-Man” where you pick one guy and guard him and try to prevent him from getting the ball.  Wherever he goes, you go too.

The other type of defense is called “Zone” defense where you pick one area of the field or court and deal with any opposing player who comes into that zone.  When the opposing player leaves your zone, you let him go and don’t follow.  Sometimes there’s one player in your zone, sometimes several, sometimes none.  You don’t really care about each individual player, you care about doing your job within the confines of your zone.

If you want to bang a lot of girls you need to play “zone” rather than “man.”  Your “zone” is getting laid.  Women will come into your zone, leave your zone, sometimes there will be several women in your zone, sometimes there will be none.

You do not want to play “man” where you chase one particular woman all over the field.  This is also called “oneitis” or “prelude to marriage.”

A kid’s coach once told me he never let any of his younger teams play zone defense.  Why?  Because inexperienced players tend to get distracted by one opposing player and end up following him all over the field whether they’re supposed to or not.  Then the zone collapses and it all becomes a de facto “man” defense anyway.

Same thing goes with new guys on the mating market.  They set up their zone, some chick comes into it or looks like she’ll come into it and the guy latches onto her and follows her out of his zone.

And believe me, women want to lead you out of your zone and into theirs.  Theirs usually involves you making commitments to them and whatever offspring they may wish to have (or already do have).  This is not in your personal best interest if you want to bang lots of chicks or otherwise lead a relatively independent life.

Focus on your zone, whatever it is.  For me, it’s “cheap, quick sex with reasonably attractive women.”  That’s a good summation of my zone.  I will entertain any woman who is in that zone or looks like she is about to enter the zone, but if she avoids the zone or starts to leave the zone, guess what, my attention leaves her.  If she comes back into the zone, then great, she regains my attention.  If she orbits my zone and refuses to actually enter, then after a few attempts to get her into my zone I’ll just ignore her.

Sometimes months will go by with no woman in my zone.  So be it.  I might expand the zone a little out of frustration during those dry phases, I’ll admit.  But not by much.  Usually if I go out more or get more aggressive, I’ll find women in my zone.

So again, focus on your zone, not on women themselves.  Eventually it will become second-nature, the borders of your zone will strengthen, and nobody will be able to draw you out, no matter how much drama she instigates

Pass the Pussy Forward

Generally, women help each other get what they want from men.  Sure, they cockblock each other plenty, but by and large women are far more cohesive at increasing the price of pussy worldwide than men are at bringing it down.

In fact, you’ll frequently see this referred to online as a “cartel,” which is a decent description.  Sluts are shamed, prostitution is criminalized, and many women command super high prices just for spreading their legs.  Up to and including marriage (and windfalls in divorce).  Women win by increasing the price of pussy, and they historically have banded together to do so.

Men have historically been too involved in outdoing one another to help each other lower pussy’s price.  But this must be stopped.  It’s time to Pass the Pussy Forward.

Your first goal as a man is to get laid.  But your second goal — and a very close second it is — is to make it easier for other men to get laid.  This means that if you fail to bang a chick, you should always do what you can to make it easier for the next guy to bang her.  You must lower her market value in her eyes and/or you must empower her to embrace her sexuality and screw more men, quicker.

I call this “Passing the Pussy Forward.”  The more that men do it, the easier it will be for all of us to get laid quickly, easily, and inexpensively.

This happened to me when I was in college and dating a chick who was my age and had only slept with one other guy before me.  I was in her bed one morning after a night of snuggling, no sex.  This was before I had much game.  Her phone rang and I instinctively rolled over and answered it.  Some dude’s voice asked for the girl but she was in the bathroom.

Fast forward to the next night.  The girl and I had sex in that same bed.  Turns out that the guy on the phone was an LJBF of hers.  After he called and spoke with me they had lunch and he asked who I was.  She said, “Oh, a guy who slept over.”  He said, “Did you fuck him?”  She said, “No.”  He said, “Why not?  He sounded cute.  Don’t let him get away.”

The next night she and I were screwing.

So here was a guy who was into this chick, wasn’t able to bang her, but passed her pussy forward to me.  Without his help I may have never screwed her.  And he did this by lowering her perceived market value a little by suggesting that she would lose me if she didn’t screw me.  He also empowered her by asking whether she had fucked me.

This is what men should be doing all the time.  Pass the Pussy Forward.  I do it as much as I can.  I’ll give you two examples, once recently when I lowered a woman’s perceived market value, and secondly my continual attempts to make sex feel empowering to women.

I had a first date planned with a chick and we were texting back and forth the day before it was to happen.  At some point she said something like, “You’re really hot but I never have sex on the first date.  The second date is another story “  Instead of accepting this, I cancelled the date and told her to find someone else.  I told her that nothing throws cold water on a man’s libido like a woman saying she wouldn’t sleep with him.  She was taken aback and pissed off, but coincidentally a friend of a friend and I were talking months later and he said he had a short fling with her and she had no trouble putting out on the first date.  Because of her bad attitude I didn’t bother trying to scrounge for her pussy but instead helped make it easier for other men to screw her quicker, easier and cheaper.

I’ve done this many times over the years to women who have high self-perceived mating market value.  If a few men do this to the same woman, before long she’s really easy to screw.

Here’s another thing I do: I empower women to think of themselves as sexual aggressors by ascribing the verb “fuck” to them.  Just as the guy in my story above did.  I say, “She fucked that guy,” or “You fucked me the other night,” or “Let’s fuck each other.”  If you think about it physiologically, women are the fuckees and men the fuckers.  However, I like to empower them so they feel that by having sex with men they are controlling the situation, not being controlled.  I want them to feel that sex is their idea and that they want to screw men quickly and easily.  Everyone likes to feel powerful, and if you make women feel empowered by screwing men, they will do it more often.  They won’t think of their pussies as prizes to be won, but as tools to be used.

Just as I’ve been helped by other men to get laid, I like to help other men get laid.  And you should too.  This means: don’t pay high prices for sex, don’t kowtow to women to have sex, don’t put them on pedestals or make them think they’re super hot, don’t wait for sex, make sex a priority in relationships, empower women to have sex, make women think they are the ones initiating and deriving power from sex…. etc etc etc.

Remember the Alpha Male Golden Rule: If you can’t screw a girl, make it easier for the next guy to.  Pass the Pussy Forward.

Roissy/Heartiste’s fascination with the end of the world

So it seems that pretty much every post that’s been up on Roissy’s-slash-Heartiste’s blog the past couple of years has been about the “end of days.”  Yes it’s couched in sociology and so-forth, but it’s definitely there.  I’m talking about his oddly self-righteous lamentations about how culture today is going down the drain because betas can’t get laid.

In his/their current installment, he/it/they/whatever writes about some blogger who posts silly shit written by his “wigger” relative, named Bennett.  Bennett writes texts with standard Swingers/Tao-of-Steve advice for banging chicks, like don’t be a pussy, don’t be too sensitive, don’t be too eager, etc.

Then of course Roissy/Heartiste slants it to his bizarre Chicken Little scare-tactic and says:

“A culture teeming with shameless Bennetts and dotted with islands of antagonistic SWPLs and tribalistic snarkers is a doomed culture, too far gone to resuscitate. Stick a fork in it, it’s done.”

As if the concept of women mating with unsophisticated bad-boys and leaving respectable nice guys dry is a new one and one which somehow suggests that the “culture” is “doomed.”   This blogger obviously doesn’t know his history.

As an aside, I would strongly, strongly suggest that everybody start studying history, like right now.  Listen to podcasts, read shit, watch History Channel shows, etc.  You need to know this stuff or you won’t understand how mankind has changed not one iota since the dawn of time.  And if you aren’t able to understand that, and you don’t know how your own actions fit into this eternal unchanging, you won’t be able to predict the future.  And if you aren’t able to predict the future, you won’t be able to position yourself to best benefit from mankind’s ceaseless shenanigans, and you will be just another one of the billions of people who are surprised by the world’s daily occurrences and always find themselves at the tail-end of humanity’s OODA loop.

Ok, anyway, all Chateau Heartiste would have had to do would be read some things from, say, before 1990.  He could have read about the ancient Roman gladiators who were about as brutal and uneducated as anyone in human history but who pulled aristocratic pussy like flies to shit; more recently he could read Lady Chatterley’s Lover or Gone with the Wind which display high-class broads falling for low-class guys and antagonistic assholes, respectively.

Intellectual beta herbs have never pulled tail, and that’s why they’ve traveled the world, not only to pursue their intellectual curiosity but also to pursue native pussy, the likes of which they could never get at home because those women were too busy fucking the 17th century’s version of Outlaw Biker Guy.

If our culture is in a decline, it’s been declining for the past million years or so.

Come on guys, wise up, read your history.  Every generation thinks (and secretly hopes) it’s the last.  It never is.  Human nature goes on, unceasing, unchanging.  Don’t make the mistake of thinking you’re — we’re — special.

EDIT: If you want a good place to start learning about history, search for Dan Carlin’s “Hardcore History” podcast on iTunes.  It’s fantastic.

Clarifying my stance toward feminism

So I was re-reading a previous post of mine and various blog comments I’ve made and didn’t want people to think that I thought everything about “feminism” is good.  I put that word in quotes because most men who write about feminism have no idea what its central tenets are.  I’m not going to explain them here.

As I said before, feminism is overall great for men such as myself, who want to bang lots of chicks quickly, easily and inexpensively.  I don’t have to plan all our dates, do all the paying, pretend I’m interested in marriage, or anything like that.  Women are looking to me for hot sex and my winning personality, not so that I can pay their bills.  Why? Because they can pay their own bills.

Of course all things have their downsides.  I can think of two things that real feminists believe that I’m against, and I’m sure there are more.

First, some feminists have been for the ban of “extreme” pornography, where the woman is “degraded” or whatever.  I disagree and say that if a woman wants to do those things in front of a camera and she’s not being forced to, then she should be able to.  Banning stuff makes it more desirable anyway, and I think those feminists’ line of reasoning is bullshit.  I’m not into extreme porn myself, I like fairly vanilla stuff personally, but if some guys (and girls) are into it I don’t give a rat’s ass.

Also I recently read that some feminists wanted the police to publicly release the names of all alleged sex offenders before they had even been convicted of a crime.  That is a very dangerous practice.  Any woman can allege anything any time, and making the police release the names of men who had been merely accused of sexual violence would be outrageous.  Look at the Duke Lacrosse team.  Shitty idea.

Fortunately both of these stances are on the extreme side and won’t be put into practice.

There are probably other retarded feminist positions I would be against if I knew them.  The reason I disagree with the Men’s Rights lamers is primarily because they don’t even understand what real feminists believe.  They think feminists are against male birth control and want all men to pay alimony forever and other stupid and simply wrong assumptions. They also seem to want to return to a traditional “courtship” era where men bring home the bacon and virtuous women stay at home and clean.  This is not only highly unlikely but would make my easy-pussy lifestyle essentially impossible.

Most men’s rights ‘tards have a deep-seated beta within them longing for “one good woman” they can boss around like their grandpas did.  News flash: there ain’t one good woman, there are a million fuckable ones.  I’d rather have the latter.

I’m not against Men’s Rights and for Feminism, or vice versa.  I’m simply against uninformed, ignorant blathering and whiny beta-boys.  And I’m in favor of quick, easy pussy.

Men who need foreign women are 1) losers or 2) control freaks

Oh, not more idiocy on the dating forums.  Yes, it’s the “American women are so terrible — foreign women are fantastic!” meme that’s making the rounds, as it does every few years.

Here’s my answer: if you have to date foreign women to get what you want, you’re a freak and should seek counseling.

And here’s why.

Most Westernized women are all pretty much the same.  Due to mass communication and media, they watch the same TV shows, they read the same books (or translations of them), they swoon over the same movie stars, they read the same news, they use the same web sites, they use the same phones, their friends act the same, etc. etc. etc.  They’ve all been socialized in pretty much the same way.

So to say that somehow non-American women are different is just silly.  Western women around the world are all pretty much the same.  This has been shown to me, time and again, when I’ve dated Brazilians, French girls, Australians, South Africans, Scottish girls, Israeli girls, Canadians, Mexicans, Russians, you name it.  Also, I’ve traveled to London and Dublin and have dated women there — not just Brits and Irish but Polish girls, Australian girls, etc.

They’re all the same.  Some are nice, some are bitches, some are cute, some are ugly, some are smart, some are dumb.  They’re all different, and in their differences they’re all the same.

However, there are some women out there from more traditional (mostly Asian, some Eastern European) countries who do act differently.  They’ve been socialized a little differently, and indeed some of them are more outwardly subservient than Westernized chicks.  They have just the same agenda as all other women — they want to snag a guy who is attractive and rich.  And once he’s hooked, their hooks come out.  They just act more demure as they go about doing it.

Internet dudes LOOOOVE these chicks?  Why?  Let’s connect the dots.

Remember my previous post stating that if a guy is successful, he doesn’t disparage the system in which he is successful?  If a guy is successfully banging chicks from his own country, he doesn’t disparage them.  Why would he?  He’s being rewarded by interacting with them.

So if a guy is disparaging the women around him, he’s not getting laid.  Simple as that.  By any of ‘em, or by very few.  This means he’s got no game.  That means he may need to go a country where is status is automatically higher just because he’s from a foreign land.  It’s a shortcut to actually becoming a winner.  If you’re a loser, go to where the other men are even bigger losers.

There is one other type of man who feels he has to go outside his own culture to find more demure women, even if he’s currently banging them at home.  This guy is even worse than the previous guy.  He’s a controlling psychopath, to put it bluntly.  If you need women in your life who act demure and put on a show of your awesomeness even though you’re just an average shmuck (which you are, let’s face it), you have a tiny, fragile ego.  Tiny, fragile egos are the hallmarks of the megalomaniacal psychopath.  He feels so shitty and small about his life that he needs some woman to show him that — at least in her eyes — he is powerful.

That’s really the only explanation I can come up with, because I don’t share their views.  Women are pretty much the same wherever I have found them.  In my experience, foreign women were, if anything, more demanding and bitchier than American women, but overall no great difference.  If you find yourself having to travel long distances to find “good ones,” chances are that it’s you who is the problem, not the women.

EDIT:

To clarify, the above post doesn’t apply to guys who enjoy traveling and enjoy banging broads around the world.  They’re normal dudes who like variety.  That’s not the kind of guy I’m talking about.  I’m talking about the man who hates American women and luuuuves foreign women.  If you want to travel to bang chicks, that’s great.  If you have to travel to bang chicks, that’s bad.

Don’t hit on women who are paid to be nice to you

I should make this one a rule because it seems that every guy under the age of 25 fails to understand this important concept, until it’s proven right and they feel like fools:

Bartenders, waitresses, strippers, hostesses, clerks, tellers, receptionists, etc. etc. etc. are all off limits to you while they’re working.

In other words, don’t hit on the help.  Ever.

Why?  Because they’re not interested in dating customers, and nothing you say or do will change that fact.  And it makes you look like a pathetic shmuck to boot.

No, just because the cute bartender gave you a free drink, it doesn’t mean she wants to fuck you.  Just because the stripper gave you a hand job in the VIP room, it’s not because she thinks you’re “special.”  Just because the hot bank clerk waived the fee for your cashier’s check doesn’t mean she wants to sit on your cock.

These women are at work, and part of their job is to make customers feel special.  They see you as one of two things, a walking wallet or a potential trouble source.  That is, they are being nice to you because they want a big tip, or because they don’t want to be hassled by their boss for poor customer service.

They don’t really like you, they don’t really have any interest in you at all.  They want to make their money, have the most drama-free day at work they possibly can, and go home and relax.  They don’t want to date you, they don’t want to fuck you, they don’t want to be your friend.

This especially goes for strippers and bartenders and waitresses.  These women are hit on 5000 times a day by guys who are way cuter, way richer, and way more interesting than you.  They say no to all of them.  They like the attention, and they love the money.  Then they go home to their lazy boyfriend and nag him until he gets pissed off and leaves to go out with his buddies.  That is their life.  You are not a part of it and never will be.  When your wallet walks out the door, you disappear from their minds.  You are not special, you are not memorable.  Sorry.

So please, just conduct whatever business you have to with them, and then leave them alone.  By hitting on the help, you make yourself, and men in general, look utterly pathetic. It’s like you don’t understand the fundamental rules of the world.  Chicks don’t bone customers, unless they’re whores.  There is an invisible line between server and customer.  Once you are a customer, you don’t get to cross that line.  Didn’t they teach you this in school?

And furthermore, are you really that sad that the only chicks you’re able to talk to without shitting yourself are the ones who are PAID to stand there with a smile on their face?  How pathetic is that?  You make all guys look clueless, and taking the lazy route of hitting on the help stifles your game progress.  It’s like whacking off to porn rather than going out and boning chicks.  Just as porno girls are paid to screw, serving girls are paid to flirt.  Relying on either for your psychological well-being is dangerous.

So please, act like you understand how the world works and leave these broads alone.  They want to get their shit done, get paid, and go home just like the rest of us.  Please don’t be one of those douchebags who fails to understand this.

Women are clients, not employers

I’m relatively lucky in one specific way, as far as my job goes: I work for myself.  This means that I have clients, not an employer.

The difference is that if you have one employer, your entire livelihood depends upon that one entity.  Whereas if you have clients, you have several — sometimes many — shifting entities in your life upon whom you rely for money.

Same goes with women.  If you have one woman in your life, you are entirely dependent on her for all your female needs — sex, love, cuddling, affection, all the things for which you want a woman in your life in the first place.

Whereas if you “Date Multiple Women, Always,” you have a slowly revolving set of women in your life who serve your needs.  When you lose one, it can be sad, but it’s not the end of everything.  Just as if you lose a business client, you may have to hustle to replace him or her, but you’re probably not going to starve since you have other clients.  Whereas if you’re fired by your one employer, you’re screwed unless you can land a new job right away.  It’s a mad, horrible scramble where you have absolutely no income between those employers.  And it can last a whole lot longer than you ever imagined.

For me, it’s liberating being able to tell my clients to fuck off if they annoy me.  I’ve worked for employers before, and it’s an unpleasant experience.  I generally suck as an employee and I’ve been fired over and over again for speaking my mind or for doing my own thing at work.

This is why I suggest that you Date Multiple Women, Always.  It turns them from an “employer” into “clients” whom you respect but whom you can live without if they become overly demanding or bitchy, or if they won’t put out on a schedule that works for you.  It means that no one woman can monopolize your ability to get sex or love or whatever you may want from the female gender.

The downside to treating women as clients is that you are constantly having to hustle and “prospect” for more.  If you’re an employee, generally you don’t have to go out and find new clients, the bosses (or other specialized salespeople) do that.  You have your specific job and you do it; you don’t have to worry about every little thing.  Whereas part of my job is going out, advertising, and getting more clients for my business.  Part of my workday is set aside for that specific reason, and if I stop then my clients dry up and I begin to starve.

This is exactly what you have to do when you treat women as clients rather than employers.  It is the downside.  You have to set out part of your dating life to not only go out with your current women but to find more women to “sign up” as your clients.  You’re constantly hustling at some level.  Always, your whole life.

Another downside is that eventually every client/woman will leave you.  Sooner or later.  There is generally no “till death do us part” client.  That’s a downside if you’re looking for “forever.”  I’m not, so it’s no big deal to me.  The one person who stays in my life forever is me, all other people will rotate in and rotate out at varying speeds.  As Billy Joel sang, “Life is a series of hellos and goodbyes,” and that’s manifested in spades when it comes to the dating world.  Yes it’s painful, but that’s just how it is.

On the whole, though, treating women like clients is great if you have the mindset to do it.  I suggest every man at least try it once in his life for a few years.

Rule 4a: You Must Lie to Women, the Remix

If you haven’t read Rule 4 yet, please do so, I’ll wait.

Ok, got it?  Now, here’s the thing, and this is where stuff starts getting somewhat advanced.  You might think that Rule 4 states that you always have to make women believe that you aren’t screwing other women.  That the “Lie” consists of preventing them from consciously realizing that you’re boning other chicks.

Not so fast.  Rule 4 is true, you must lie to women.  But preventing them from consciously knowing that you are boning other broads is only one of the lies you must tell them.  The other half of that specific lie is making them think that, yes, you are boning women.

Whaaaaat?  You have to make them believe that you aren’t boning other chicks AND that you are boning other chicks?

Yes.  Exactly.

You need to keep women in kind of a limbo.  A perpetual limbo.  Like balancing a stick on the palm of your hand.  For you to keep a woman for as long as you want her, part of her has to suspect that you are boning other broads, and part of her has to believe that you aren’t boning other broads.  If she ever finds out for sure you ARE boning other broads, her socialized neocortex will take over and dump you.  If she ever finds out for sure you are NOT boning other broads, her hindbrain will find you so unattractive that she will find a way to either cheat on you or dump you.

So this means that you have to tailor your lie to your situation.  If you are not currently boning any other broads, you have to give her hints that you are, without saying it outright.  This usually involves swinging back and forth from affection to indifference, from openness to secrecy, etc.  Mentioning other women you’ve dated, having mysterious hot chicks post things on your Facebook wall.

Example: Telling her she’s the only girl you’ve ever really loved, and then answering a text message on the sly and pretending to hide it from her.  You’re pulling her in two different directions.  On one hand it’s plausible that you love only her (which she would secretly hate) and at the same time it’s plausible that you’re screwing some other women who are at least as hot as she is (which she would be turned on by but would be forced to dump you over if she found out for sure.)

Here is what you want to instill in women: confusion.  Ideally, if her friend asks her candidly whether she thinks you’re “cheating” on her, she should think long and hard and respond, “I… I don’t THINK he is.”  If your woman can state for a fact and with full confidence that you are not boning other women, her attraction for you is already gone.  If she can state for a fact that you ARE boning other women, then her socialization will not let her stay with you.

Of course if you are boning other chicks, which you should be, you should hide 95% of it.  And the things you let her see should be calculated.  For example, walking in with a strand of long blonde hair on your shoulder which she will find.  You can easily say “Oh the wind must have blown that onto me.”  Walking in with a whiff of perfume on you.  Calls from someone very late at night.  All these can be explained away, but at the same time she’s thinking, “I wonder… I wonder…”

Keep her in limbo, always.  Use Rule 4 to keep her teetering on the edge at all times.  Lie one way, lie another way, move her back and forth, keep her guessing.  Reality should have very little bearing on the meaningful stuff that you tell her.  The stuff you tell her that’s real is just throwaway.  It’s work, yes, but it’s interesting and it will get you what you want.

The Good and Bad of the “Gurus”

As my “About Me” blurb says, I’ve been around the pickup “scene” for a decade and a half.  At least the online scene — I’ve never wanted to get to know or hang out with any other “PUA” nor have I attended any seminar or whatever.  I have read tons of literature, though; pretty much all of it I’ve found online.  I haven’t paid for it nor would I.

Anway, I thought I’d do a quick rundown of the good and the bad of each guru’s shit, according to myself.  YMMV.

Ross Jeffries

The NLP “embedded commands” are pure gold.  I’ve heard a recorded SS 3.0 seminar and it’s shit.  The problem with embedded commands is it’s like counting cards in blackjack.  It’s very powerful but hard to get your mind to focus for extended periods of time.  The few times I’ve used embedded commands they’ve worked, though.  And I’m as skeptical as they come.  Also, if you’re just starting out his “Get Laid” newsletters are great if you can find ‘em.

R. Don Steele

His books are worth a read-through.  Once.  “How to Date Young Women” is fine.  “Office Politics” and “Body Language Secrets” are good for a read-through.  I read it when I was 22, preparing for my older years.  His concept of keeping 3 girls in your rotation at all times is a good one.  I wouldn’t go to a seminar.  Real basket-cases go to his seminars.

Ray Gordon

Yup, the psycho of alt.seduction.fast.  I actually read his “Outfoxing the Foxes.”  He has one good concept, One and Done.  Quite powerful.  The rest I don’t really remember.

David DeAngelo

“Cocky and Funny” is a rule to live by.  His other stuff is rather obvious and unnecessary, IMHO.

Mystery

His whole Mystery Method is decent, although it’s geared toward a club scene which I’m never in.  The concept of telling long, winding stories is bullshit, IMHO.  I hate people who monopolize a conversation with stories.  He takes peacocking way too far.  DHV spikes are a good concept.  I’d say get hold of everything you can and listen to it twice.  Lots of good stuff, but scattered throughout his lectures.  The Interview Series is a good one if you can find it.

Style

Same as Mystery’s stuff.  Never read “The Game.”

Gunwitch

I hear he’s out of jail   “Make the ho’ say no” is a decent mantra, if you keep it within reason.  Always be closing, right?

Tyler

Perhaps one of the brightest guys out there, currently.  Listen to as much of him as you can.  It’s not always helpful, but there are nuggets of gold which are rather evenly distributed throughout all his stuff.

RSD in general

Most is a waste of time, there’s about 3 minutes of useful material in an hour presentation.  Maybe listen through once.  One Australian lecturer’s comment has stuck with me to this day, though.  He said that a man shouldn’t be entertaining women, he should be “entertaining himself, 100% of the time.”  Totally true.

The other latest guys I’m really not that familiar with, as you can see my experience lies with the real old buggers.  When I started posting in ASF, there was only Jeffries, Steele and Gordon, and I don’t really keep up with the billion “gurus” who have sprung up in the past few years.  But I will be listening to some of their shit in the coming weeks.

Of the blogs, Roissy/Heartiste’s is the one that I continually come back to, though much of it is shaming older women these days.  Don’t know why.  Roosh V is also a good one.  You should go to each of those blogs and read every single post in both of them, taking the good parts and discarding the political statements and all the other bullshit that isn’t germane to boning chicks.

My theory for learning Pickup is this: Read or listen to everything and let your own experience tell you what to pick out.  Very good stuff is about 30% good, 70% chaff.  Other stuff is lower.  But even if you listen to 6 hours of utter nonsense, the guy might say one thing that’s pure gold.  Don’t follow any “guru” completely and don’t exclude anyone out-of-hand.  The only real things you’ll have to “practice” are the NLP stuff and the rather complex steps in the Mystery Method process.

Otherwise just kick back and enjoy.  And don’t pay a fucking dime.

Game Attitude vs. Game Technique

One of my rules is that “Game is merely the simulation of having women in one’s life.”  By that I’m speaking of Attitudinal Game.

Game is broken down into two aspects, Attitude and Techniques.  Some day you will realize that these are actually the same thing, but that’s fairly advanced, so for now we’ll think of them as two separate things.

So my rule above applies specifically to the Attitude part of game.  Your “Game Attitude” is exactly the same as the attitude of a guy who has many beautiful women in life vying for his attention.  Exactly the same.

But what, then, is the “Technique” branch of game.  Well, those are best typified by stuff like the Mystery Method and Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction stuff.  They are knowledge-based tactics that are used to consciously and unconsciously persuade women to do what you want them to do.

Proper “Game Attitude” is mandatory for getting laid consistently, but “Game Techniques” are not, though they can help a great deal.  I think both Speed Seduction and Mystery’s/Style’s stuff work as well, and RSD stuff works, David DeAngelo, even R. Don Steele’s body language and office politics books work.  It all works to some degree, all of the theories help you out in some way even if you don’t follow them exactly.  All of them are about 30% truth and about 70% bullshit.  You can figure out what’s what.  Master it all as far as I’m concerned.  And no I’ve never spent a dime on any of it.

Ross Jeffries’ 1994-97 “Get Laid” newsletters were great for Game Attitude.  They really helped me out at the time.  I wish I knew where to find those again.

And, like I said, at an advanced level your attitude and your techniques are revealed as one sort of giant amalgam of “Alphaness.”  But for now I think it’s best to think of them as two things to work on — how you relate to yourself and how you relate to women.  Attitude and Technique.

Interestingly, due to Rule 2, how you feel about yourself is based largely upon how many women you have in your life.  But isn’t that really the case?  We all like to think that we consider ourselves awesomesauce even when we’re sitting alone dateless for years at a time, but that’s simply not how our minds work.  Have many women in your life and your self-attitude will change.  Read Rules 2 and 3 again.

Now, that brings up the big question.  To get Game Attitude you need to be dating multiple women, but to date multiple women you need to have Game Attitude.  How do you get the women in the first place if you need women to get women?  Rule 4.  Rather, a new and somewhat strange look at Rule 4, which we’ll explore next time.