I like thinking of analogies that model human relationships. These models are not “true,” but they’re helpful in simplifying the extremely complex processes that take place when you date multiple women.
As you know, I think that always dating multiple women is mandatory for my own happiness, and possibly yours. But what’s the best way to achieve it so that your whole system is stable and can hopefully last your entire lifetime? I don’t mean that each individual woman lasts years and years (though they can), I mean your whole system of multi-dating does. Let me explain.
First off, some guys call it multi-dating, some call it having a “harem,” some call it “spinning plates.” I think of it as a solar system. You’re the star, and the women are planets which revolve around you at varying speeds.
If you look at a solar system, there are planets that orbit quickly around a star, sometimes taking only weeks or months to do so, and there are planets orbiting much farther out that can take centuries. Think of each relationship as one, and only one, revolution around you. Some women will complete this orbit in a short time, and some women will complete this orbit in a longer period of time. The former are called “short-term relationships” (STRs), the latter are called “long-term relationships” (LTRs). And then there are some in the middle (MTRs).
As you also know, I believe that women attract women. When you have no women, it’s very difficult to get new women. Therefore it’s best to have a system which allows you to keep the most women you can, on the terms you want and within the time, energy and monetary constraints you have.
I’ve been multi-dating for a decade now, and I like to maintain a stable system of orbiting women. It means that they are less likely to all collapse at once and make me start over. Stability of the entire system, rather than that of each individual woman, is what allows this to happen.
Let’s look at this model further. If two planets get too close to each other in a solar system, they interfere with each other’s gravitation and either one or both are ejected from the solar system or they crash into each other. Either way, that’s not a stable system. Planets have to be spaced out in proper orbits that provide stability to the system or, at the very least, don’t cause instability.
The same thing, I’ve found, must happen with women. I’ve found the most stable configuration is 3-4 women in my solar system with varying orbital (relationship) time-spans. One is a long-term relationship which cycles very slowly, over the course of years. Another is a medium-term relationship that lasts several months to a year. And the last ones are short- and very-short-term relationships that complete their orbits in a matter of days, weeks, a few months, maybe just one night.
For some reason, when I have a bunch of women in the same orbit at the same time — several short-term, mid-term, or long-term relps — the system becomes less stable and I’m more likely to lose all of them.
I think a man needs all of the things that each relationship type can offer: the security of LTRs, the challenges of MTRs, the excitement of STRs. Furthermore, I think that it’s almost impossible for the average man to have enough energy, money, and time to have several LTRs at once. And I think that the average man would be unfulfilled if all he had in his life were STR after STR with no LTRs at all.
So what does this mean? This means that you will be supervising a constantly changing, yet ultimately stable, solar system of women. Some of them may start out orbiting quickly but then get “promoted” to a slower-orbiting path. Some LTRs will reach the end of their orbit and a medium-term girl will have to be promoted. Sometimes if you find that two women are competing for LTR status, you’ll have to demote one to a faster track and watch that relationship end sooner than it otherwise would have.
I wish I could make an animated solar-system video because I think that it would be more clear to see the various orbits, the various promotions and demotions, and how things can change when a LTR comes to a close and what happens to the other planets.
So visualize a system where the fast inner planets are completing their orbits and being replaced on a frequent basis, the slower middle planets taking longer, and the outermost planets taking a long time. It remains stable with STRs entering and exiting on a frequent basis. It does become somewhat unstable when a MTR or (especially) when an LTR completes its orbit. But if you have options and “game,” that system regains its stability in short order.
I’ll give you an example of the system in action. I had a 4-year LTR complete its orbit in the Spring of 2008. It was fairly unexpected, but not entirely. At that time I had an intermittent MTR and a couple of STRs going at the same time. Immediately I promoted the MTR to a LTR by treating her better, seeing her more often, and generally treating her as a long-term partner. I bumped one of the STRs — much to her surprise — into a MTR orbit. I then spent that summer dating a shit-ton of new women. I had about 5 new STRs that summer. One of those was really beautiful and sweet and very quickly got bumped into LTR orbit. This meant that the one who was already in that spot was bumped back down to MTR. A couple of STRs duked it out and one made it into my MTR orbit, further displacing the MTR who had just been demoted. The others stayed at STR distance and eventually completed their orbits. The poor girl who had started out a MTR, then was temporarily promoted to LTR, then doubly demoted down to STR made her exit and was upset and confused and hates me to this day.
When all was said and done, the STRs continued their fast orbits, I had a new LTR (which lasted 3 years), and my MTRs swapped around and eventually contained a couple of new girls who lasted about 6 months each.
You can see the rather severe upheaval that happens when an outer planet completes its orbit. Generally the whole system is disorganized for a couple of months, and then settles down into its new equilibrium. But despite the changes within, the system itself remains stable.
Finally, I want to make one thing clear. When I talk about bumping women into various orbits, I don’t mean that you lengthen or shorten the orbit yourself. They will do that. What you’re doing is treating them as LTRs or STRs, or something in between. Here are the things you do with LTRs that you don’t do with STRs:
1) Spend more time with them
2) Spend more money on them
3) Show your affection more freely
4) Introduce them to friends and family
5) Go on trips with them
The reasons STRs end their orbits quickly is generally not because you’ve dumped them; it’s because you choose not to treat them as LTRs, and they eject. If you’ve met up with and screwed a girl for a month and she invites you to hang out with her friends and you say no, she’s going to complete her orbit around you relatively quickly.
LTRs will usually end their orbits once they finally realize you’ll never marry them.
The only times I ever end STRs is when I don’t want to have sex with the woman again for whatever reason.
My ultimate goal is to date multiple women over my entire lifetime. I’ve found that this system is (so far) the best at allowing me to do so.