Pass the Pussy Forward

Generally, women help each other get what they want from men.  Sure, they cockblock each other plenty, but by and large women are far more cohesive at increasing the price of pussy worldwide than men are at bringing it down.

In fact, you’ll frequently see this referred to online as a “cartel,” which is a decent description.  Sluts are shamed, prostitution is criminalized, and many women command super high prices just for spreading their legs.  Up to and including marriage (and windfalls in divorce).  Women win by increasing the price of pussy, and they historically have banded together to do so.

Men have historically been too involved in outdoing one another to help each other lower pussy’s price.  But this must be stopped.  It’s time to Pass the Pussy Forward.

Your first goal as a man is to get laid.  But your second goal — and a very close second it is — is to make it easier for other men to get laid.  This means that if you fail to bang a chick, you should always do what you can to make it easier for the next guy to bang her.  You must lower her market value in her eyes and/or you must empower her to embrace her sexuality and screw more men, quicker.

I call this “Passing the Pussy Forward.”  The more that men do it, the easier it will be for all of us to get laid quickly, easily, and inexpensively.

This happened to me when I was in college and dating a chick who was my age and had only slept with one other guy before me.  I was in her bed one morning after a night of snuggling, no sex.  This was before I had much game.  Her phone rang and I instinctively rolled over and answered it.  Some dude’s voice asked for the girl but she was in the bathroom.

Fast forward to the next night.  The girl and I had sex in that same bed.  Turns out that the guy on the phone was an LJBF of hers.  After he called and spoke with me they had lunch and he asked who I was.  She said, “Oh, a guy who slept over.”  He said, “Did you fuck him?”  She said, “No.”  He said, “Why not?  He sounded cute.  Don’t let him get away.”

The next night she and I were screwing.

So here was a guy who was into this chick, wasn’t able to bang her, but passed her pussy forward to me.  Without his help I may have never screwed her.  And he did this by lowering her perceived market value a little by suggesting that she would lose me if she didn’t screw me.  He also empowered her by asking whether she had fucked me.

This is what men should be doing all the time.  Pass the Pussy Forward.  I do it as much as I can.  I’ll give you two examples, once recently when I lowered a woman’s perceived market value, and secondly my continual attempts to make sex feel empowering to women.

I had a first date planned with a chick and we were texting back and forth the day before it was to happen.  At some point she said something like, “You’re really hot but I never have sex on the first date.  The second date is another story ;)”  Instead of accepting this, I cancelled the date and told her to find someone else.  I told her that nothing throws cold water on a man’s libido like a woman saying she wouldn’t sleep with him.  She was taken aback and pissed off, but coincidentally a friend of a friend and I were talking months later and he said he had a short fling with her and she had no trouble putting out on the first date.  Because of her bad attitude I didn’t bother trying to scrounge for her pussy but instead helped make it easier for other men to screw her quicker, easier and cheaper.

I’ve done this many times over the years to women who have high self-perceived mating market value.  If a few men do this to the same woman, before long she’s really easy to screw.

Here’s another thing I do: I empower women to think of themselves as sexual aggressors by ascribing the verb “fuck” to them.  Just as the guy in my story above did.  I say, “She fucked that guy,” or “You fucked me the other night,” or “Let’s fuck each other.”  If you think about it physiologically, women are the fuckees and men the fuckers.  However, I like to empower them so they feel that by having sex with men they are controlling the situation, not being controlled.  I want them to feel that sex is their idea and that they want to screw men quickly and easily.  Everyone likes to feel powerful, and if you make women feel empowered by screwing men, they will do it more often.  They won’t think of their pussies as prizes to be won, but as tools to be used.

Just as I’ve been helped by other men to get laid, I like to help other men get laid.  And you should too.  This means: don’t pay high prices for sex, don’t kowtow to women to have sex, don’t put them on pedestals or make them think they’re super hot, don’t wait for sex, make sex a priority in relationships, empower women to have sex, make women think they are the ones initiating and deriving power from sex…. etc etc etc.

Remember the Alpha Male Golden Rule: If you can’t screw a girl, make it easier for the next guy to.  Pass the Pussy Forward.

Rule 4a: You Must Lie to Women, the Remix

If you haven’t read Rule 4 yet, please do so, I’ll wait.

Ok, got it?  Now, here’s the thing, and this is where stuff starts getting somewhat advanced.  You might think that Rule 4 states that you always have to make women believe that you aren’t screwing other women.  That the “Lie” consists of preventing them from consciously realizing that you’re boning other chicks.

Not so fast.  Rule 4 is true, you must lie to women.  But preventing them from consciously knowing that you are boning other broads is only one of the lies you must tell them.  The other half of that specific lie is making them think that, yes, you are boning women.

Whaaaaat?  You have to make them believe that you aren’t boning other chicks AND that you are boning other chicks?

Yes.  Exactly.

You need to keep women in kind of a limbo.  A perpetual limbo.  Like balancing a stick on the palm of your hand.  For you to keep a woman for as long as you want her, part of her has to suspect that you are boning other broads, and part of her has to believe that you aren’t boning other broads.  If she ever finds out for sure you ARE boning other broads, her socialized neocortex will take over and dump you.  If she ever finds out for sure you are NOT boning other broads, her hindbrain will find you so unattractive that she will find a way to either cheat on you or dump you.

So this means that you have to tailor your lie to your situation.  If you are not currently boning any other broads, you have to give her hints that you are, without saying it outright.  This usually involves swinging back and forth from affection to indifference, from openness to secrecy, etc.  Mentioning other women you’ve dated, having mysterious hot chicks post things on your Facebook wall.

Example: Telling her she’s the only girl you’ve ever really loved, and then answering a text message on the sly and pretending to hide it from her.  You’re pulling her in two different directions.  On one hand it’s plausible that you love only her (which she would secretly hate) and at the same time it’s plausible that you’re screwing some other women who are at least as hot as she is (which she would be turned on by but would be forced to dump you over if she found out for sure.)

Here is what you want to instill in women: confusion.  Ideally, if her friend asks her candidly whether she thinks you’re “cheating” on her, she should think long and hard and respond, “I… I don’t THINK he is.”  If your woman can state for a fact and with full confidence that you are not boning other women, her attraction for you is already gone.  If she can state for a fact that you ARE boning other women, then her socialization will not let her stay with you.

Of course if you are boning other chicks, which you should be, you should hide 95% of it.  And the things you let her see should be calculated.  For example, walking in with a strand of long blonde hair on your shoulder which she will find.  You can easily say “Oh the wind must have blown that onto me.”  Walking in with a whiff of perfume on you.  Calls from someone very late at night.  All these can be explained away, but at the same time she’s thinking, “I wonder… I wonder…”

Keep her in limbo, always.  Use Rule 4 to keep her teetering on the edge at all times.  Lie one way, lie another way, move her back and forth, keep her guessing.  Reality should have very little bearing on the meaningful stuff that you tell her.  The stuff you tell her that’s real is just throwaway.  It’s work, yes, but it’s interesting and it will get you what you want.

Rule 4: You Must Lie to Women

So this brings me to my most controversial rule, Rule 4: You Must Lie to Women.

Most guys believe, and most “game” advice states, that a man who is really in control should be able to do what he wants and let women know what he wants and they’ll be cool with it.  ‘Cause he’s a man, he’s big pimpin’, he’s got tight game, and so if he wants to bang lots of broads he can come right out and say it and, voilà, the women will accept it.

If this is you, more powa’ to ya.  Unfortunately, in my experience, shit just don’t work that way.

Socialization exists.  We have to deal with it.  That is, people are socialized to view certain behaviors in certain lights, and such socialization is very powerful.  In our monogamous society, we are all socialized to view “couples,” and specifically heterosexual couples, as the norm.  Polygamy is really, really frowned upon.

No matter how much a chick is in love with the studliest Alpha-male she’s ever met, she’s got all of her upbringing telling her that she is “special” and that she deserves a man who thinks she’s special too.  Special enough that he will eschew all women other than her.  But on the other hand, she’s got 3.5 billion years of evolution stating that she should find the guys that other women love.

So, we have a problem. On one hand her hindbrain is telling her to find a guy that other women love.  On the other hand her neocortex tells her to find a loyal mate.  What’s your solution: you lie.

Here’s the thing: what constitutes a “lie” to men is different than what constitutes a “lie” to women.  Women fully expect an Alpha to be banging other women.  They understand this at a gut level.  They want it, in fact.  However, their socialization runs counter to this.  Therefore when you lie you are, in a way, doing women a big favor.  And in reality it’s not just a favor, it’s a necessity.

Listen and listen closely to this, because once you understand it you will understand women at a level deeper than you ever thought possible:

It is not “immoral” to tell a woman that she is the only one in your life when in fact there are others.  It is only immoral and blameworthy when you are so careless as to let her find out you are banging other women.

Here’s an example.  Tiger Woods.  Do you really think his wife didn’t realize at some level that he was banging other women?  Ha.  He banged dozens of other chicks during their marriage.  Ain’t no way she didn’t know.  But the shit didn’t hit the fan until some tabloid published his liaisons for all the world to see.  That very night, the night that the tabloid came out on the stands, she chased him out of the house and bashed the shit out of his car while he was trying to drive away. Why?  Not because he was banging other women, but because he was careless enough to let the damn thing get found out and shoved in front of her face and everyone else’s faces.

Here’s another example.  Do you really think that Sandra Bullock didn’t realize her man Jesse James was banging other women?  It wasn’t until she won an academy award and one of his catty other bitches tried to derail her happiness by blabbing about it in the papers that their marriage unraveled.

I’ll give you an example from my own life.  (And I’m not calling myself an “Alpha” on par with these other guys, though I do have some Alpha traits.)  I had a long-term girlfriend who came over once and found another woman’s pair of undies under my bed.  She was livid.  But what she said when she was yelling at me made me take note.  She said, “I can’t believe you let me find those!”  I can’t believe you let me find those.  Not “I can’t believe you screwed some other chick.”  She was upset that I cared so little about her that I didn’t bother covering up my tracks.  She wasn’t (really) upset that I was banging another chick.  I was Alpha enough in her eyes that she understood that I’d have other women in my life.  She was upset that I showed her the disrespect of letting her find evidence of it.  (And despite the drama she didn’t break up with me, by the way.)

So you see, “morality” for women is not about you being “faithful.”  It’s about you caring enough to make her believe that she is special in your eyes.  And that requires a lot of care.  Enough care that you are willing to tell her she’s the only one in your life, when in fact she’s not and you both know it.  Enough care that you are willing to go the extra mile to clean up any evidence of other women and convince her that she’s the only woman on your mind when you’re together.

Because deep down inside she doesn’t want to be the only woman in your life.  Remember, women attract women.  She wants to be part of your harem, hopefully your best girl.  But deep down inside she wants to know that you are banging other women, yet care enough about her to never let her find out.

I remember listening to Tom Leykis years ago and he had a youngish woman on who was giving dating advice to men.  Now, normally a woman’s dating advice to men is utterly worthless and it would be best to do exactly the opposite of what they recommend.  But this woman had some advice that was so interesting that I remember it almost a decade later.

The woman said, “She wants to be your number one, not your only one.”  That is, at a gut level the women in your life may want to be the most special woman in your harem, but they certainly don’t want to be the only woman in your harem.  I’d never heard this before and never since.   But it is the truth, and it’s a great way of putting it.

So, you must tell her she’s the only woman in your life to appease her socialization.  You must bang other women to keep her interested in you at a gut level.  To satisfy these conflicting drives, you must “lie” to women.

Here’s an aside: No woman will ever agree with the above stuff.  Or very, very few.  Why?  Because when you ask women to analyze stuff, their neocortex — the socialized part of their brain — is the part that’s doing the talking.   And in a patriarchal society, where men try to control women to a great degree, women have a much larger difference between their natural drives and their socialization than men do.  That is to say, they have been socialized away from their natural instincts to a greater degree than men have.

So when you ask her about what I’ve said above, she will spout whatever she’s been socialized to spout.  And she really does believe what she’s saying.  Of course her actions will usually be entirely different.  This is the reason men say “look at what she does, not what she says” if you want to understand what’s really going on.

Rule 3: Date Multiple Women, Always

We’ve determined in previous posts that women attract women, and that “game” is the simulation of having multiple women in one’s life.  What comes next and is derived from those two things is:

Rule 3: Date Multiple Women, Always

(By “date” I mean “have a sexual relationship with.”  I don’t necessarily mean taking them out on classic “dates.”  I certainly don’t mean “courting” or “wooing” them.  My “dates” usually consist of going out for drinks, then back to her place to fuck, maybe watch some TV, shoot the shit, walk around town, smoke a joint, that sort of thing.  The only thing that’s mandatory is the sex.  I use the word “date” because it’s short and easy to remember.  But as we’ll see in another post, the concept of taking a woman you haven’t screwed yet out to dinner and movies is no longer relevant in the 21st Century.)

You should always have 2-4 women in your life.  More if you can swing it.  By “in your life” I mean these should be women you are seeing at least every couple of weeks and whom you screw every time you see them.  Maybe you see Girl A twice a week, Girl B every two weeks, and Girl C, who lives 100 miles away, once a month.  That’s fine.

How to get these women in the first place is a subject for another day.  Right now we’ll concentrate on the fact that you should constantly, and I mean constantly, have more than one woman in your life.

R. Don Steel in his book, “How to Date Young Women for Men Over 35,” suggested having 3 girls at all times, because 2 is dangerously close to 1, which inevitably leads to 0.  This is a decent rule.  My math goes something like this.

4 girls = 4 girls

3 girls = 3 girls

2 girls = 2 girls (barely)

1 girl = 0 girls

Read that again.  You will notice that having one girl leads to having no girls.  This always happens.  If women attract women, and they’re the only thing that attracts women, then when your one girl sniffs around and doesn’t pick up the scent of other women on you, she will leave.  Might not be today, might not be this week, but it will happen.

You may have heard this rule summarized as “keep spinning plates, ” or “have a harem,” or whatnot.  This rule is not as controversial as my others.  However, there is one point that must be made.  It’s the last word — “Always.”  “Date Multiple Women, Always.”  This in fact means ALWAYS.  That is, for your whole life.

This means that unless you are a Mormon, you will never be married.  Yep, that’s right.  You will not be getting married this lifetime.  You will be dating, screwing, and in general having relationships with multiple women until the day you die.  But let’s face it, marriage is an obsolete institution anyway.  I for one don’t shed a tear for its demise.  Of course, some of you have deep-seated urges to find that special someone, settle down, and raise children.  Those types should not be reading this blog.

This is one of the few periods in human history when men have been able to do this — get laid and have semi-regular relationships with several women at once (who rotate in and out of your life on varying schedules).  And not have to be rich to do it.

This also means that if you have 2 women in your life and one dumps you, you better find another one ASAP.  Like right away.  If you have 3 women and 2 dump you in succession, which does happen sometimes, you need to get out there and find another.  If your “harem” drops to 1 girl, you have to make it your life’s immediate mission to find another one, to the exclusion of all else, until you’ve found one.  Literally.  Unless you don’t mind starting back from square-one, completely alone (which does happen too, though hopefully no more than a couple of times in your life).

So that’s the third rule.  The next rule will address how to reconcile the fact that your needs as a man differ from society’s needs.

Rule 2: “Game” is the simulation of having many women

Here’s another rule that may make some people scratch their heads.  I touched on it in a previous post.

What the “seduction community” calls “game” consists of various psychological tactics that can be used to make it more likely that women will bang you.  They are techniques that can be employed when in public and when in private to attract and seduce women.

But in reality, “game” is nothing more than the simulation of having many women in your life.  Specifically, the simulation of having many sexual options available at the current time.

Every game “technique” or “tactic” is automatically and unconsciously employed when a man has multiple women who are interested in him.  Subtle “negs,” non-needy body language, “qualifying” a woman rather than allowing her to do so to you, etc… you do all that stuff without realizing it when you’re already getting as much pussy as you can handle.

Unfortunately the only way to test this rule is to, in fact, have many women.  And, once this has been accomplished, to then observe one’s own behavior.  You will find that when you are satisfied with the amount of pussy you have at your disposal, women will see you and seek you out, or at least make any of your advances much more rewarding for you.

This brings me to my third rule — Date Multiple Women, Always — which I will touch upon in one of my next entries.  And I will frequently come back to this rule so remember it.

Rule 1: Women Attract Women

Before we begin with the Rules, here’s a disclaimer: These Rules are a model of reality.  They are not “truth.”  They are a simplification of the world that I’ve experienced in my life.  I don’t think any rule anywhere ever is universal, and these are no exception.  But, they are accurate distillations of the reality I have perceived.  And I’m a pretty perceptive guy with lots of experience.

Now, on to the Rules!

This is the most fundamental rule of the mating market, as far as men are concerned.

Rule 1: Women Attract Women

This is like the old saying “money makes money.”  It’s true, and it has a tremendous number of important ramifications.  In fact, all of seduction theory rests on this one basic rule.

The main corollary is that, fundamentally, “women are the ONLY THING that attracts women,” or to put it another way, “Without women, you will attract no women, no matter what else you have.”  And the inverse is true, if you have lots of women interested in you, you need nothing else to attract more women to you.

As with money, if you don’t have any, you won’t make any.  Hard work is nothing without tools, which require money.  Even knowing what to work on, and how to do the work, requires education, which requires money.  Money requires prior money to generate it, and only if you have enough money can you make more.  Barring some calamity, the rich always get richer; barring some tremendous stroke of luck, the poor always remain poor.

Same with women.  If you have some, more will follow.  If you have none, you will remain that way.  This is the most fundamental rule that men fail to fully grasp.  If you don’t believe this rule, you will forever be a chump with chicks.

Women attract women.  This leads to Rule 2, which I will touch on here but discuss in detail later.

You’ve heard of “game,” which is men’s attempts to use psychology and behavior to attract and seduce women.

Game is merely the simulation of having many women in your life.  Men who have many women in their lives… don’t need game!  Or to put it a different way: they already have it, without trying.  Or to put it another way: men don’t need to simulate what they actually have.

Look at it this way, your “game” behavior — acting cool, not putting women on a pedestal, not chasing, acting like a ‘jerk’ — all those modes of behavior are how you would naturally act if there were many women who were interested in you.

This fundamental axiom, that women attract women and are, in fact, the only thing that attracts women, is something that will underpin all of the theories of this blog.  And it’s been borne out again and again in my own experiences.

Now, there is one situation that some men will point to to show that this theory is false, so I will address it now even though it’s somewhat advanced.  That’s when a woman finds out that you have lots of other women in your life and dumps you because she feels threatened.

This does happen.  But it does not violate the Rule.  The Rule is: Women Attract Women.  Just because a woman dumps you doesn’t mean she’s not attracted to you.  Women who dump men for having “too many” women do not dump them out of a lack of attraction, they dump them out of a fear that they cannot compete with so many other women.  It’s fear, not lack of attraction, which causes the dump.

So I’m not saying that you should advertise that 10,000 women are on your jock, or you will literally scare away many women.  You have to play it down a middle path, and calibrate it for each woman you want to seduce.  We’ll go into this much more later.